David,

First, my most heartfelt condolences and prayers for your family. I lost my father to cancer when I was 20 and we went through a similar situation. So, I know a little about what your father, you and your family went through. I can tell you that the hurt doesn't go away but it does get easier with time.

My children and my wife never met him or got to know him so you need do all that you can to keep his image and life in their thoughts. It will help you and them remember him. Then, as others have said, it's up to you to honor and keep his legacy.

Our son-in-law's parents are serving a mission in Africa and they shared this quote from one of their new converts:

"What you do for yourself is lost when you die but what you do for others is your legacy."

Your father has left an amazing legacy, your responsibility is to add to it. Our prayers and holiday greetings to you and your family at this time. Your friend, Dave.